I have been recently asked – for the millionth time – what BDSM is. So I repeated the answer I reached after decades of study and practice: «extreme eroticism is the art of making yourself vulnerable». It sounds good, it’s elegant and it is even true. But maybe it is...
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In a comment on my Facebook page, I was scolded by a reader who remarked how I never really write about aftercare in BDSM. She was right: I don’t – but for a very sensible reason. But before discussing that, let’s get everybody on the same page with a quick...
This coming Sunday sees another appointment with Sadistique, the BDSM party I organize each month in Milano. Looking at the calendar I noticed that this will be the 120th edition, yet just like for the very first one I am already receiving desperate messages from...
Some time ago Radaaria (the webmistress of the Italian BDSM website Legami) and I talked about the confusion reigning over even basic subjects like safewords. In the end, in the commendable spirit of «if you don’t like something, instead of complaining you should...
As it happens with every single form of sexuality, the reality of BDSM suffers from several problems you’ll never see in its most common depictions, which is to say pornography. Is it the moralists’ hatred? The uncertain legal status? The forbidding prices of many...
Transvestism was socially accepted in 18th century America – so much that Lord Conbury, governor of NY, opened the 1702 Assembly dressed in a ballgown.
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